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Thoughtful Memorial & Sympathy Gifts for the Holidays

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on November 25, 2011

Thoughtful Sympathy Gift Ideas for the Holidays

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My Friend is Sick: Should I Give Food or Money?

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on October 12, 2011

Guest Blog
Ethan Austin is the co-founder of GiveForward.com

 

When my mom found out last month that “Mrs. Gorman”, our next door neighbor of twenty-five years was diagnosed with cancer, she immediately jumped into action, preparing a big pot of my grandmother’s famous beef barley soup. She whipped up a batch and brought it over to the family who was thankful for the gesture. On that first day, a home cooked meal was exactly what the Gormans needed. It calmed everyone’s nerves and brought a sense of normalcy into an otherwise very unnormal day.

 
As word spread around the neighborhood about the Gormans, everyone wanted to help, and so the food parade officially began. Soon the Gormans had more comfort food than they knew what to do with — their freezer was overloaded with lasagna and meatloaf galore.But even with all this love and (highly caloric) support coming in from the community, it became obvious very quickly that what the Gormans actually needed was money. The Gormans are middle class folks with full health insurance, but cancer is financially overwhelming for just about anyone, so a little extra money to reduce the added stress of bills and co-pays can go a long way.
 
Sadly, instead of giving money, everyone just kept giving food. Throughout the week it was more food. And more food. And more food. All the neighbors knew that the Gormans could use extra money to get through this difficult period, yet, no one wanted to talk about it. It was the proverbial elephant in the room.
 
Later that week my mom said to me, “I feel so helpless. What else can we do to help?” For me, the answer seemed obvious. Having seen thousands of families in the exact same situation over my years at GiveForward, I said to her, “They need money, right? Set up a GiveForward page for them so friends and family can contribute.”
 
But what was obvious to me, wasn’t so simple for my mom. It made her uncomfortable to bring up the issue of money. ”Won’t they be offended if we set up a page for them?” she asked. ”Possibly,” I answered, “but what’s worse: offending their sense of pride or allowing them to get so stressed out about their finances that they can’t focus on getting better?” My mom agreed with this logic and mustered up the courage to email our neighbor’s daughter-in-law about GiveForward. Instead of being offended, the daughter-in-law thanked my mom profusely. It was exactly what they needed.
 
I am super-proud of my mom for standing up and doing the right thing when no one else would. But sadly, I think the story of the Gormans is all too common and exemplifies how backwards we are in this country when it comes to giving. We’re more than happy to give money in celebratory times like weddings, graduations, and first communions. And we’re also happy to give money to people in far off places whom we have never met. But when our closest friends and family get sick and really need money the most we choose to send lasagna! I suppose lasagna is safer than sending money and by sending it, we don’t risk offending the ones we love and care about. But I don’t think lasagna is enough. It’s absolutely great for one day, but it doesn’t begin to solve any of the bigger problems the family is facing.
  
On the other hand, setting up a fundraiser for a friend is the opposite of sending lasagna. It’s risky and can be a bit scary. What if I bring up the issue and my friends take offense to it? Or what if I set up a fundraiser and nobody gives? Without a doubt, there is a greater chance to fail with a fundraiser than there is with lasagna. If I have learned one thing in my three years at GiveForward, however, it’s that doing the right thing isn’t always comfortable and it’s rarely easy. But it’s worth it! When you open up your heart and do something truly meaningful for another person it becomes infectious and you will want to do it over and over and over. And others will too! So, the next time you find out a friend or loved one is sick, before you jump into the kitchen to prepare some comfort food for them, I encourage you to stop and ask yourself: do they really need any more lasagna?
 
 
Ethan Austin is the co-founder of GiveForward.com, an online fundraising platform that has helped thousands of families raise millions of dollars online for out-of-pocket medical expenses. He has had the great pleasure to work with Jeannett for the past year and feels lucky to be able to call her a friend (even though they have never met in real life). More than anything, he is absolutely thrilled that through their work together, wonderful people like Vanessa and her son Brock have found and benefitted from GiveForward.


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Thoughtful Sympathy Gift Ideas – Sympathy Food

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on September 23, 2011

We are very pleased to announce the addition of Sympathy Food to our Thoughtful Gift Ideas page on our website at http://www.ididnotknowwhattosay.com/gifts-giftbaskets.html.

Whether you are far away and not able to provide a home cooked meal or life’s hectic schedule does not allow you to cook a full meal, Sympathy Food offers a unique way to provide a nutrition meal to friends and family that are grieving the loss of a loved one.

About Sympathy Food

1. What inspired you to start the Sympathy Food business?

I was sitting in my office at my funeral home one day working on some improvements to my funeral home website. I thought about adding an option where people could order flowers directly from my website. I knew how flowers were the “traditional” sympathy gift but I also knew a lot of people’s frustration with flowers as a less than practical gift. Gifts of comfort food have always been a welcome, nourishing way of letting someone know that “you care” when a death has occurred.

2. What makes Sympathy Food different from sending a food basket?

Sympathy Food sends fully prepared meals that feed a minimum of six people. Fruit or other sympathy baskets are nice but are mostly snack foods.

3. What is unique about Sympathy Food?

We are the first and only online, prepared-foods company that specializes in the sympathy gift market.

4. What do you consider to be your specialty?

We are not a gourmet food site.  We take pride in offering great tasting and nourishing comfort food. A complete meal for the whole family to enjoy.

5. Are you able to provide food for individuals that may be on a special diet or have food allergies?

WE do have some food options that are geared toward vegetarian diets and we are working now on other dietary dishes.

6. How long has Sympathy Food been in business?

I conceived the idea in late 2006 and began work. We started a test market (east of the Mississippi) in January of 2008 and went nationwide in late 2009.

7. Where can Sympathy Food deliver?

Currently we deliver anywhere in the continental United States 1-3 days ground shipment.

8. How do you guarantee that clients receive what they have ordered?

After an order is placed, we personally contact the recipient by phone, let them know that a gift of comfort food has been sent to them and read them the card. We also give them the option of receiving the food as soon a possible or we can delay shipment until a time that suits them better.

9. What would you like our readers to know about your company?

We are an e-commerce site that was created to fill a niche that wasn’t currently being addressed. Flowers are beautiful, but they can be very expensive and are usually taken to the cemetery to wither and die. Families usually always come together during the “many sympathetic moments of life” and usually share a meal. Now there is a gift that lets them know they are in your thoughts and actually meets a need.

You can find Sympathy Food on our Thoughtful Gifts page – http://www.ididnotknowwhattosay.com/gifts-giftbaskets.html

For more gift ideas, please visit our Thoughtful Gifts page on our website at www.ididnotknowwhattosay.com/gifts.html

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