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May your Thanksgiving be filled with many blessings!

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on November 27, 2014

Be Thankful

Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire.
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something,
for it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations,
because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge,
because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes.
They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary,
because it means you’ve made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.

GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings.

Author Unknown

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Wishing You & Your Family a Very Happy Thanksgiving
Lori Pederson
Founder, I Did Not Know What To Say. Com

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May Your Thanksgiving be Filled with Many Blessings!

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on November 27, 2013

Wishing You & Your Family a Very Happy Thanksgiving

As each day comes to us refreshed and anew, so does my gratitude renew itself daily.
The breaking of the sun over the horizon is my grateful heart dawning upon a blessed world.
~Terri Guillemets

 

May Your Thanksgiving be Filled with Many Blessings!

Lori Pederson
Founder, I Did Not Know What To Say

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Happy Thanksgiving from I Did Not Know What To Say!

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on November 21, 2012

Happy Thanksgiving from I Did Not Know What To Say.com

May Your Thanksgiving be Filled with Many Blessings!

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow. ~Melody Beattie

Be Thankful

Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire, If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something For it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge Because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary Because it means you’ve made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things. A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.

GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles and they can become your blessings.

Author Unknown

Wishing You & Your Family a Very Happy Thanksgiving

Lori Pederson
Founder, I Did Not Know What To Say. Com

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Happy Thanksgiving from I Did Not Know What To Say.com

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on November 24, 2011

May Your Thanksgiving be Filled with Many Blessings!

Happy Thanksgiving from I Did Not Know What To Say.com

Be Thankful

Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire,

If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something

For it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times.

During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations

Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge

Because it will build your strength and character.

Be thankful for your mistakes

They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you’re tired and weary

Because it means you’ve made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things.

A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are

also thankful for the setbacks.

GRATITUDE can turn a negative into a positive.

Find a way to be thankful for your troubles and they can become your blessings.

Author Unknown

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More Than Words Can Say

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on July 12, 2011

As seen on the Note Project Blog on June 28, 2011: http://noteproject.com/more-than-words-can-say

When I learned about the Note Project, I went through some of my old letters and found a copy of a Thank You note I had sent my friend Michele after my mom had passed away. Michele was truly there for me at one of the most difficult times in my life. It has been almost 18 years since my mom passed away and I can still feel the love and support that surrounded me at this time of great loss.

I decided to share my letter to Michele not only to express my gratitude to her but to also show what an impact you can have on the life of a friend that has lost a loved one.

 

Dear Michele,

“I wanted to send you a note to let you know how much I appreciate you and your friendship. Words seem too limited to express the love that our friendship demonstrates.

I can never thank you enough for being there when I truly needed you. From making phone calls, to bringing food, to the most important part – being there when I needed a friend to listen.

Thank you for taking the time to stand by me when I felt like I was going crazy. Thank you for checking up on me and seeing me through the hard days. You can’t imagine how blessed I feel to know that I have such a wonderful friend.

Even when everything seems to have fallen apart, the one thing that makes me believe that God still cares about me is my loving friends and family. I am not sure I understand much about my life anymore, but the one thing I do know is that I have great friends that will see me through the good and the bad times.

Thank you again for the hundreds of thing you have done and said to make my life a bit easier over the last few months. I can’t imagine life without you!”

Love Lori

I have been deeply blessed with loving family members and caring friends that were there for me throughout the grieving process. Their thoughtfulness inspired me to create the website www.IDidNotKnowWhatToSay.com, where we share resources and inspirational ways to support a grieving love one. We invite you to share your story.

The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.
H. Humphrey

I Didn’t Know What To Say, a website created to inspire and to provide you with tools to assist a love one through the grieving process. Over the past 20 years I have lost many family members, several friends and pets. I have been deeply blessed with loving family members and caring friends that were there for me throughout the grieving process. Their thoughtfulness has been an inspiration to me and I hope to you as well. The smallest of gestures can make a big difference in someone’s life. My hope is that our site will inspire you to make a difference in the lives of those around you.

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The Note Project – Pledge to Send a Note

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on April 13, 2011

We wanted to take a minute to spread the word about The Note Project created by Mike O’Mary.  A wonderful and yet simple way to spread appreciation and love to those that have made an impact on your life.  Send a note of gratitude…that is all you need to do.  That simple jester may just make a BIG difference in the life of someone you love.

What is the Note Project?

The Note Project is about sharing appreciation. There is no cost to participate. Just “Pledge to Send a Note”. Your pledge will count toward our goal of sending 1 million notes. You’ll also receive a free copy of the Note Project newsletter with helpful tips and inspiring stories about appreciation. Pledge to send a note today! For more information, please visit  the Note Project website: http://noteproject.com/

Coming April 18, 19 & 20, the Note Project Telesummit will explore all aspects of making appreciation a part of your life. Each session will include practical information you can apply in your daily life. And best of all, all three sessions are FREE! You’ll hear best-selling authors and experts on appreciation, including Nia Peeples, Dan Millman, Chester Elton, Brenda Adelman, Michael McMillan, John Kralik, Lynn Serafinn, Gail Goodwin, Florence Isaacs, and Note Project founder Mike O’Mary.

For more details and to sign-up for the Telesummit, click HERE.

We are grateful that you have visited our site today!

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Happy Thanksgiving!

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on November 24, 2010

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more.
It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.
It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.
Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.
~Melody Beattie

May Your Thanksgiving be Filled with Many Blessings!

Happy Thanksgiving from I Did Not Know What To Say.com

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In Honor of Our Fallen Soldiers

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on May 30, 2010

Speech by Ronald Reagan given at the interment of the last Unknown Soldier from the Vietnam War (who has since been identified with DNA.)  His words ring true not only for Veterans of the Vietnam War but for all soldiers that have served our country.

“The Unknown Soldier who is returned to us today and whom we lay to rest is symbolic of all our missing sons, and we will present him with the Congressional Medal of Honor, the highest military decoration that we can bestow.

“About him we may well wonder, as others have: As a child, did he play on some street in a great American city? Or did he work beside his father on a farm out in America’s heartland? Did he marry? Did he have children? Did he look expectantly to return to a bride?

“We’ll never know the answers to these questions about his life. We do know, though, why he died. He saw the horrors of war but bravely faced them, certain his own cause and his country’s cause was a noble one; that he was fighting for human dignity, for free men everywhere. Today we pause to embrace him and all who served us so well in a war whose end offered no parades, no flags, and so little thanks. We can be worthy of the values and ideals for which our sons sacrificed — worthy of their courage in the face of a fear that few of us will ever experience — by honoring their commitment and devotion to duty and country.

“Many veterans of Vietnam still serve in the Armed Forces, work in our offices, on our farms, and in our factories. Most have kept their experiences private, but most have been strengthened by their call to duty. A grateful nation opens her heart today in gratitude for their sacrifice, for their courage, and for their noble service. Let us, if we must, debate the lessons learned at some other time. Today, we simply say with pride, “Thank you, dear son. May God cradle you in His loving arms.””

To the men and women that have fought for our country and their families we say Thank You!

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Happy Mother’s Day!

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on May 9, 2010

Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mother’s out there and to my Mom watching over me.

I know Mother’s Day can be a difficult time for those that have lost a child, have had a miscarriage or have lost their mother. From my own experience, Mother’s Day is filled with mixed emotions of celebration and sadness from the loss of my mother and from my miscarriage a few years ago.

For those that are grieving today, my hope for you is that you are comforted with warm memories of your mom or your precious child.

Do you have a special tradition or celebration that honors your mom’s memory on Mother’s Day? We would love to be able to share your story with our readers next month. Please email your story to us at info@ididnotknowwhattosay.com or post your story on our blog.

“My mom is a never ending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune.”
~Graycie Harmon

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Stress and Dealing with Loss

Posted by ididnotknowwhattosay on April 29, 2010

Our Interview featured on Our Stressfull Lives.

Dealing with loss of a loved one can be difficult, but what about the friends, family members, and co-workers who are trying to offer help and support? The stress that can come from helping someone through the grief process can be overwhelming at times and often we just don’t know what to say or do to help.

Lori Pederson is the creator of www.IdidNotKnowWhattoSay.com (I Did Not Know What To Say) and specializes in helping those who are supporting someone else through the loss of a loved one and through the grieving process.

Lori was generous enough to take the time to answer a few questions to help us learn how to deal with loss from the perspective of the caring and concerned friend, family member, or co-worker to help relieve some of the stress that comes with helping those who are experiencing great loss.

OurStressfulLives.com: Helping a friend, family member, or co-worker dealing with loss can be stressful. What encouragement or insight do you have for those who are stressed by the difficulty of finding the best way to help their friend/family member grieve?

Lori Pederson: First, recognize that your friend or colleague may not know what they need in the first few weeks after they have experienced a loss. Offer your support by listening and assisting them with the daily tasks of living-grocery shopping, cleaning house, taking children to school, etc.

Know your limits. If you start feeling overwhelmed with assisting your friend with the heavy emotions that can come with grief, try to assist them in finding a grief support group. You may want to offer to attend a grief support group with them to give them emotional support.

OurStressfulLives.com: Do you find that friends and family members of people who are grieving experience higher levels of stress during that time?

Lori Pederson: The grieving process can be stressful for everyone. Friends and family often don’t know what to say or do for someone that is going through deep emotional pain. We often want to try to “fix” the person and not being able to take the pain away can be stressful.

I remember when my aunt passed away, my uncle would go through periods of deep sobbing. It was so difficult to watch, not only because I was dealing with my own feelings of loss but I felt helpless and unable to “fix” his pain. After watching him go through his deep emotional pain, I found that it was so important for him to go through the deep feelings to get to the other side of his grief.

Remember that you do not have to “fix” the person and that it is ok to allow them to go through the necessary stages of grief. Knowing that there will be a light at the end of the tunnel helps ease some of the stress.

OurStressfulLives.com: What are your suggestions for those who experience stress when dealing with a friend or family member who is grieving?

Lori Pederson:
Know your limits. If the stress of dealing with your friend or family member becomes too much for you, be honest and try to find a support group for yourself as well as your loved one.

Take a time out. Dealing with someone in grief 24-7 can be very stressful. Know that it is ok to take time for you.

Try to incorporate fun and exercise into your day. It is ok to try to incorporate fun into your life and the life of those grieving. Find ways that bring joy back into your friend’s life. What do they enjoy doing? What is a great adventure you can take them on? Exercise is also a wonderful way to relieve stress. Take them for a walk; get them out of the house. This will help both of you.

OurStressfulLives.com: I’ve found that some people can experience anger when grieving, which can be stressful on those around them, especially if the person who is grieving doesn’t want any help or support. How do you suggest friends and family members deal with someone who is grieving “angrily”?

Lori Pederson: Don’t take it personally. I know this is very difficult to do. You first need to understand that the person is projecting their fears and deep sadness onto those around them. Anger is also one of the many stages of grief.

In 1993 I lost my mother to ovarian cancer, two weeks later my aunt was killed in a car accident and one of my mentors also passed away from ovarian cancer. I was trying very hard to keep myself together. I had just returned to work and during a meeting a colleague of mine was acting inappropriately. After the meeting I found myself extremely angry and I started yelling at her and could not stop (not my finest moment). What happened next was truly a gift. Instead of becoming angry and taking it personally or even yelling back at me, she just came up to me and gave me a hug. To this day I am extremely grateful that my friend chose to show support and compassion instead of greeting me with more anger.

OurStressfulLives.com: Many people consider their pets to be part of their family, I certainly do. When someone is grieving over the loss of a pet, do the same “rules” apply for helping them grieve, or is there something different/special you suggest people do to help with that type of grief?

Lori Pederson: Pets provide unconditional love and companionship. Many people are insensitive when it comes to the loss of a pet. They figure you can just get another one. For people that love their pets, it is not that simple. The loss of a pet can cause a great void in the life of their owner.

Understanding, thoughtfulness and support are wonderful gifts you can give your loved one when they have lost a pet.

We have also found some wonderful Pet Sympathy gifts and have listed them on our site at:
www.IdidNotKnowWhattoSay.com/gifts.html

OurStressfulLives.com: What do you want readers of OurStressfulLives.com to know about you and/or your website?

Lori Pederson: I created I Did Not Know What To Say in April 2009 as a platform to inspire and provide resources to people that wanted to help their friends and family through the grieving process. My expertise comes from those experiences that only life can provide. Over the past twenty years, I have lost many family members, including my mother to ovarian cancer, as well as many friends, colleagues and pets.

Throughout my life I have been blessed with many friends and relatives that were there for me as I experienced these great losses. I understand that although people want to help, they often don’t know where to start. I Did Not Know What To Say.com was created out of my desire to assist people find the words when they don’t know what to say or do.

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© 2010 Lori Pederson
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